#SongoftheDay The Dress (Dijon)

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The other day, I mentioned a dream I had that characterized marriage as being locked in a dull, dark room.

Well, the next night I dreamed that I showed up at my aunt's cottage (my aunt doesn't have a cottage) with my wedding dress (I don't have a wedding dress).

Clearly, marriage is bubbling around in my unconscious mind.

I never wanted to get married, when I was young. Now... I'm not sure I have particularly strong feelings either way. If I lean toward wanting marriage in my life, it's more for practical (legal, financial, etc) reasons, at this point. My partner and I were both self-sufficient adults when we joined forces. I don't feel like we ever really "built" a life together. I still have my own home. He has his. His is better.

We spent the summer at my place while he underwent daily cancer treatments in the city. I've never taken care of anyone as intensively as I've taken care of him, except when my siblings were young. We've known each other for decades, but we've only been together for a few years now. Even so, we've been through a lot together, especially over the past few months.

Does marriage matter?

I still don't have an answer.

He's been married before. His divorce really shattered him. The process of divorce shattered him. He doesn't want to try marriage again, after that emotionally wrenching experience.

One time we were watching a show where a couple had lived together for more than twenty years before deciding to get married. I wondered out loud what would suddenly make you want to switch to married life after living together for so long. I was really surprised when my partner said something about it being a choice you make every day. I'm not getting the words right, but basically I was saying I don't think about marriage on a daily basis. I don't think: should we just keep living in sin or should we finally tie the knot? That's not really something that crosses my mind.

And what he was saying implied that the opposite was true, for him: it implied that he wakes up next to me every morning and consciously decides he would rather us not be married.

I shouldn't dwell too much on that thought, because it actually makes me incredibly sad.


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