#SongoftheDay You Don't Own Me (Joan Jett)

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One time in couples counselling, our therapist encouraged us to talk about how we plan to care for each other if one or the other gets sick--or dies.  He asked us if we've thought about the financial side of things, in particular.  "Have you thought about how much money you'd like to leave Giselle? Have you thought about how you'll take care of her when you're gone?"

My partner said, "I've never thought about taking care of Giselle.  Giselle just takes care of herself."

I almost burst into tears.  That's the impression I give people--even those I love most: that I'm this self-watering flower who doesn't need anything from anybody. True, I am self-sufficient.  I've always taken care of myself because I've always had to, even as a child.  But you know what?  After all these years, I'd really like to be taken care of.  I don't mean that in a financial sense, even though money-talk is what got us started down this road.  I suppose I'm saying that I'm ready to weave my life into someone else's.  I'm ready to care for my partner, and I'm ready to be taken care of.

So, what is this?  A cautionary tale?  I don't know.  I guess I've learned that if you go around telling the world "You don't own me," the world will listen.



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See you tomorrow!
Giselle

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