#SongoftheDay Let's Hear It for the Boy (Deniece Williams)
At her 85th birthday party, my late grandmother gave a toast to celebrate her sons-in-law. There was no mention of her daughters--the people who had organized the party. Grandma just went on and on about how great her sons-in-law were.
Which is true. My uncles are good men. I love them dearly. But my mother and my aunts felt a little irritated that all the maternal affection was dumped on the boys, and there was none for the girls. My mother complained to me that her mom had always been that way. She favoured boys.
Actually--funny story--when my grandmother was dying, I spent full days by her side in hospital. There was one day, after she'd been taken off food and water and her body was slowly winding down, that I sat beside her for seven hours, knitting, reading, singing softly the songs her father had sung when she was a child.
She did not respond to my presence at all, that day. But, in the evening, my brother walked into her hospital room. The second he crossed the threshold, my grandmother's eyes flew open and she said, "You're here!!!"
I laughed my ass off. My mom was right--Grandma loved the boys.
Well, this Mother's Day, my siblings and I couldn't get together with my mother as we usually would, because of the pandemic and physical distancing. My partner drove me to my mom's house so I could drop off her gift. While I was there, my mom and I chatted. She stood inside the house and I stood on her front lawn.
My mother thanked me for the gift, but then she went on and on about my partner: how great he is for driving me, etc. Then she started gushing about my sister's boyfriend, how great he is, too. THEN my mother gave me a bag of "gifts" (things she'd found around the house) for my partner!
I find it so funny that mom is doing exactly what she criticized her mother for doing. I find it funny, but it doesn't bother me. We're not good at showing affection, in my family. My partner said to me, "The pandemic must be hard on you, because it means you can't hug your mother." When he said that, I was like, "Why would I hug my mother?"
We don't touch, in my family. We don't say I love you or compliment each other. But there's a part of me that thinks my grandma and my mom gush about our partners (male only--I've never experienced this in a relationship with a woman) because they weren't able to tell us we're good people and we make good choices.
My mom, like my grandmother before her, can only seem to celebrate the boy. So... let's hear it for the boy, I guess. I'll just pretend my mother's applauding me for choosing a man who isn't an abusive sociopath.
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Which is true. My uncles are good men. I love them dearly. But my mother and my aunts felt a little irritated that all the maternal affection was dumped on the boys, and there was none for the girls. My mother complained to me that her mom had always been that way. She favoured boys.
Actually--funny story--when my grandmother was dying, I spent full days by her side in hospital. There was one day, after she'd been taken off food and water and her body was slowly winding down, that I sat beside her for seven hours, knitting, reading, singing softly the songs her father had sung when she was a child.
She did not respond to my presence at all, that day. But, in the evening, my brother walked into her hospital room. The second he crossed the threshold, my grandmother's eyes flew open and she said, "You're here!!!"
I laughed my ass off. My mom was right--Grandma loved the boys.
Well, this Mother's Day, my siblings and I couldn't get together with my mother as we usually would, because of the pandemic and physical distancing. My partner drove me to my mom's house so I could drop off her gift. While I was there, my mom and I chatted. She stood inside the house and I stood on her front lawn.
My mother thanked me for the gift, but then she went on and on about my partner: how great he is for driving me, etc. Then she started gushing about my sister's boyfriend, how great he is, too. THEN my mother gave me a bag of "gifts" (things she'd found around the house) for my partner!
I find it so funny that mom is doing exactly what she criticized her mother for doing. I find it funny, but it doesn't bother me. We're not good at showing affection, in my family. My partner said to me, "The pandemic must be hard on you, because it means you can't hug your mother." When he said that, I was like, "Why would I hug my mother?"
We don't touch, in my family. We don't say I love you or compliment each other. But there's a part of me that thinks my grandma and my mom gush about our partners (male only--I've never experienced this in a relationship with a woman) because they weren't able to tell us we're good people and we make good choices.
My mom, like my grandmother before her, can only seem to celebrate the boy. So... let's hear it for the boy, I guess. I'll just pretend my mother's applauding me for choosing a man who isn't an abusive sociopath.
If you're wondering how you can support me in bringing you songs and visits every day, the easiest thing you can do is tell your friends about the site. Tell anyone you know--particularly people who are isolated and enjoy music.
Readers of adult fiction can also buy my books or check them out from your local library. Supporting my AudioErotica endeavour on Patreon would also help me hugely!
I'm also an Amazon Influencer, so hopefully I can make a little pocket change when you buy stuff by clicking through my affiliate links.
But you don't HAVE to do any of that. I'm very happy to get a daily visit from you, so just keep coming back.
Oh, and I also recommend hitting the "Subscribe" button at the top of the page so you won't miss a song!
See you tomorrow!
Giselle
